Heya, welcome to interview with Aditya! Today, we have someone who is exceptionally phenomenal with us, an entrepreneur, a Professional Independent Trainer, a soft skills trainer, a visiting faculty, a child psychologist, a Graphologist, a Director, a creator of possibility, producer of passion, builder of people – a TEDx speaker and a woman who is on a mission to empower women! You guessed it right, none other than Miss Riddhi Doshi!
Enters Miss Riddhi…
Self-Motivated | Highly Enthusiastic | Family Oriented Woman
“Believe in yourself and you can conquer the world.”
Extra Shot: “Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.” (Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart)
What impact do you want to leave in this world before you leave it?
I’m on a journey to empower women from within. I personally believe that we women, somewhere we fail to motivate our ownselves & to be motivated from within – so in real sense, it’s empowered from within. I’m on a mission that before I leave for an eternal journey, I want that every woman on earth is “empowered from within.”
“My father & my mother.”
Here’s why: They both come from very humble beginnings, and they have proven themselves by building an empire that we take pride inheriting. They are my real heros who motivates and inspires me to rise and shine!
1. Mr. Shashi Tharur.
Before going for my TED talk, I was following him.
2. My Father.
Since last 4 years, we were constantly in touch, somewhere we were so connected and somewhere he was constantly inspiring me to go and achieve something which I never thought of doing. He always had a vision for me going to TED – somewhere long back, he told me about this and it really happened.
3. A young girl of 17, who writes for me and who is a part and parcel of my team – LAJJA. She inspires me, every day…
She’s somebody who is very very bubbly & the way she represents “LAJJA” every day she represents my thought process is something which I never expected a young girl to be doing. Because “LAJJA” is a women forum and a young girl taking your views, and dreams ahead is something which is “incredible”.
If you have one gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it – metaphorically speaking, getting a message out to millions or billions – what would it say and why? It could be few words or a paragraph,
maybe a quote that you live by or think of very often…
"IF YOU ARE A WOMAN, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF - PROUD TO BE ONE."
If you had to instil one piece of advice in a new-born baby’s mind, what advice would you give?
“Seek for inspiration and motivation from your family, not outside.”
How does your morning Ritual look like? What do the first 60 minutes of your day look like?
My day starts with a cup of tea and my diary, it’s a “to-do” which I maintain every day. I tick the things that I have already accomplished the day before and if something is yet due, I carryforward it for the day. And that 30 minutes is for myself – in which I plan my day, weeks and sometimes months.
Me: Absolutely! It’s better to look at the future with anticipation (expectation) than apprehension (fearful expectation).
“Try and understand what you really want to achieve in your life – 10 years down the lane where do you see yourself as? Do you see yourself as somebody whom you will be proud to be? Always have yourself in a place, where you yourself are the one who to inspire you. Have a goal for yourself and than start your journey.”
What do you wish you had known about your domain or your area of expertise, 20 years ago? And how would it had saved your resources?
“20 years down, if I would have known that I would be pursuing psychology and I would be working for women and children, I would have started this long back – probably at your age, which I missed. At your age, I started my Rhyns Academy, but if I would have known that I would be pursuing psychology – I might have started working long back with children.”
What was the last thing you did, that you think is worth remembering?
My first ever TED speech. (Click me and I’ll take you to a small journey where you will know how small things we do make big difference in our own life and life of those around us –My First ever TED Speech)
What obsessions do you explore on the evenings or weekends?
Spending time with my husband and my little one – that’s something I always look forward to.
What is an unusual habit or something crazy that you love?
“I can run on roads with my little one, I can dance around, I don’t feel shy doing that. I love to have fun and freak around when it’s raining. I can be a childlike and my little one inspires me to do that. I don’t forget my childhood.”
Me: “There is a garden in every childhood, an enchanted place where colours are brighter, the air softer, and the morning more fragrant than ever again. The fact remains constant, If you carry your childhood with you, you never become older.”
In the last five years, what new belief, behaviour, or habit has most improved your life?
Last 5 years have made me more sensitive – probably the time I became a mother, I became more empathetic & sensitive. I’m earnestly trying to work towards kids because now I understand them better when I have a child.
What advice would you give to a smart, passionate, driven college student ready to enter the “real world”? What advice should they ignore?
“The world is set for you – just go and explore.”
Me: “What advice should they ignore?”
“Actually, a lot many! They should ignore some destructive comments and criticism from outsiders. Look within and your family first – look on to the people who really inspire you, instead of focusing on other noises that surround you.”
“Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions… do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.”
(Here’s how I handle criticism – click me and I’ll show you how I manage criticism that is showered upon me by all the external sources.)
What are the lessons that, you think life taught you a hard way?
Certain relationships & business associations have really taught me to become stronger, and the person what I am right now.
“Accept the change that comes to your way.”
If anyone would make a movie on your life, what would the title be, and what message should it convey?
RIDDHI DOSHI – The Lady Who Believes In Herself
Message: Believe In Yourself – and the World is ALL SET for you!
“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”
-Vincent van Gogh
In the last five years, what have you become better at saying “no” to (distractions, invitations, etc.)? What new realizations and/or approaches helped? Any other tips?
In the last five years, I have become more assertive. If I’m not convinced about something up to an extent where I’m like, “Hell Yeah!” then I do say “no” but in a way that does not hurt anyone. I may ensure that I don’t hurt somebody.
When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused or have lost your focus temporarily, what do you do?
I sit with a cup of tea, in my room or I meditate – or I would just put on some music and give a movement to myself to get the chargeback.
If you had just one day to live, what would you do in that day?
I would reach to as many women as I can in that one day and make them understand that how important it is to be self motivated for a woman, because if a woman is self-motivated then ultimately the family is full of motivation and happy.
December 2017, I had an annual program of LAJJA which we named as Tatva. And post-Tatva, I’ve started working on a very unique concept under LAJJA. Actually, we’re introducing the vocational center under LAJJA for women to help them have a small income while working from home. We’ll be supporting them with vocational guidance. We’re trying to build a platform from where they can get their entrepreneurial journey started.
Secondly, we’re starting a book club for women. Starting with Bombay, we’re looking forward to take it to Surat, Navsari, Ahmedabad, Kokata, and Delhi.
Thirdly, I’m launching a YouTube channel for youth in collaboration with a group at Bombay.
(Or do you have a favorite failure of yours?)
I believe there’s no failure in life. For me, it is just a stepping stone to reach the next level that I’m always seeking for. Failures have always inspired me to raise the bar, work harder and try again! I personally take failures as challenges that I’m yet to knock off.
What have you changed your mind about in the last few years? Why?
“I need to have a lot of friends.”
Then he paused for a moment, and continued – “No! I need a few great friends. Quality over quantity. Acquaintances or not friends.
There is value in limited associations and deeper relationships than casual friends or interactions.”
Me: “You are absolutely right. As Og Mandino says, “You will be the same person in the next five years – except for the people you meet & the books you read.” We must choose our peer group cautiously.”
[Extras: Dr. Savage believes something similar. In her interview, she says, “Birds of same feather flocks together. Show me your friend and I will tell who you are, Know yourself and never be distracted in life for God has great expectation of you.” To read her full interview with Aditya – click me!]
Is there anything that you believe is true, yet you can’t prove it (if yes, what?)
Everyone has greatness inside. No one is given less of the gifts of life. Many believe that greatness is only for the few.
Many believe it is better to be safe and secure and never venture forward to accomplish something meaning.
Most men live life in quiet desperation. I don’t believe greatness is for the very few.
I think it is in all of us. But only if each of us, try to manifest it with effort and discipline.
Sure enough, I’ll use that money in creating a trust which can help women realize their true potential.
Who Moved My Cheeze?
That’s the book I still read once a month. Every time I read the book, it gives me answers to the challenges that are awaiting me.
While I was pregnant, I took a long vacation from my work life to give that time to my little one. I’ve given him the first 3 years of his life. I’ve committed 3 hours/day in nurturing him so that he evolves as an extraordinary human being.
if happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
Currently, I seek my happiness from working with Senior citizens and children (<17 years) as a psychologist and a therapist.
“If you believe in yourself – there’s absolutely nothing that can stop you.”
Don’t stop yourself from exploring things and the outside world.
Little known fact about you?
I’m an introvert.
Rapid Fire Questions:
Cool down a bit. Don’t get angry often. People are different. Stay calm and be yourself.
- My Mobile Phone,
- Enough Cash,
- Tea Bags
Most of the times, my self-talks are motivational. Whenever I face any challenges, I keep on telling myself – Work on yourself and get it done!
if you could send a message to the entire world in just 60 seconds or less, what would you say?
Believe in yourself and be happy always!
Self-criticism. There are lot of instances, I have found myself hard on me!
“Connect to the other person with a beautiful smile!”
“Nothing you wear is more important than your smile.” (Connie Stevens)
“Yes… Respect women in your life. Let the woman understand what she is. Give her enough space to grow in her life. It is not necessary that she has to work – but let her grow in life in a way that she has time for herself. Let her live – she deserves as equal space in the world as you have.
“Believe in yourself!”
What did you learn from it?
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